A few sentimental things

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In Cismigiu last evening, with Catrinel, Alen and Alen's friends from Timisoara.

While in the metro, I remembered Al Stewart and his song Life and Life Only.
"See the cricket ball fly
Intently, like a strange demented bird towards the sun"

 I got off a few stations earlier and went to see Lacul Morii,  a lake that is pretty close to my home, but still, I never go there.I didn't have my camera and probably it's not even important that I didn't have it.

There were a woman in her fifties and a teenage girl sitting on a bench and talking, probably mother and daughter. It is quite normal to see mothers with theirs babies in parks, or even adult women walking with their old mothers, but you almost never see teenagers talking to their parents on a bench in a park. Both women had long, gracious bodies. I never talked like that to my mother. I think very few parents manage to build up such a relationship with their children. Like in that picture of Sally Mann, where she is with her daughters on a hill and she is teaching them how to piss standing. I think it's very difficult to really be friends with your kids. 

The lake was beautiful. I always forget how beautiful water is. Lakes, rivers, sea. There was the sound of little waves splashing, voices of kids playing and a lot of people jogging. I really don't know why I haven't thought before about jogging around the lake. 

I moved to Militari three years ago. Taking a walk in the neighborhood reminded me of my childhood. Children playing hide and seek,  flori, fete si baieti, people coming back from work, smell of food crawling from apartments, cold shades.I asked a man if I could take a picture of him. He said we wouldn’t mind, but he should dress up. I should return tomorrow and he would be wearing a suit. A gently way to say no. Kids asked me if I was planning to document the gangs from the neighborhood.

A man dressed in a yellow sweater, smelling like alcohol, reciting poems, Eminescu, Cosbuc and telling that only poetry kept him away from  going mad. “Saying I love you is not a big deal, but telling it in a poem, well, for that, you have to rip off the words from your soul.” I asked him if he had been a literature teacher. “No, I just loved poetry.”

 

I took the first picture of a girl and her grandmother almost two years ago and I don’t remember very well if it was meant to be part of a project. Anyway, when I developed the film I liked the picture a lot and there seemed to be such a strong connection between the girl and her grandma, they had the same look, the same determination and it made me go out and and take some more photos. 

 

“I remember the candies that seemed to be falling from the sky. It was the end of the war, but I was only 7 years old and so happy!” said the German old lady and smiled at me gently. I was in the waiting room of an emergency hospital, in the west part of Berlin,  63 years after the war ended and most importantly in the middle of the coldest November I had ever experienced.

            I had arrived in Berlin totally unprepared for the tough winter, the very different social habits, and the long rides with the metro that never seemed to be ending. It was my first staying abroad and even going to the supermarket and having to read the name of the vegetables in German was highly confusing. That’s why when I got those terrible back pains, I tried to postpone as much as possible the confrontation with the German medical system; until the pain got so bad that I had to go to the emergency.            

            I explained very shortly to a woman dressed in white, who may have been a doctor or just a nurse, I don’t know for sure, what my symptoms were and she told me I simply had to wait for my turn in a waiting room and that’s what I obediently did. There were about five persons in that room, all very quiet. I remembered my experience in the Romanian hospitals where everybody is talking to each other, while waiting for her/his turn. Well…Germans are a bit different. I already knew from my two month experience there that they can be friendly people, but they will never make the first step. So I was just adapting to these new social habits, that is, I was not saying a words and not looking at the others, when I heard this lady asking me, “Where are you from?”

            She had one of the gentlest physical appearances I had ever seen. A white hair reaching her shoulders, a yellow wool sweater and an unusually shy smile, that kind of smile we usually associate with intimidated children or teenagers.  I told her about my back pains, about me living in a student dormitory in the beautiful Dahlem Dorf neighbourhood and so on. She must have been 70 years old but she was totally lacking the tiredness we expect to see in old people. She was curious open and so alive.

            I asked her about her war time experience. She grew up in the West side of Berlin, close to Potsdam.  She told me how soon after the war ended the kids were playing the whole day outside their homes, hunting the things the Americans were dropping from their helicopters, chocolates and candies.. How shortly afterwards Potsdam was included in the Soviet Part while she and her family remained in the West Part of the city and how she couldn’t really understand why they couldn’t do any trips to Potsdam which was so close and where she heard there was a beautiful Royal Palace. I asked her if she had any kids herself and she answered a bit embarrassed and a bit sad that she had been alone all her life.

            That woman approaching me in that terrible cold November, in my almost drama-like feeling of not belonging there and telling me about her short experience as a child in an yet undivided Berlin and then her long experience as an adult in the West part of the divided Berlin, was magical and warm and shook me from my stereotypes about people and interaction.

Some go ice fishing, some go party. These fancy ladies (and a gentleman) were returning from a wedding on a hot July afternoon, most probably a fancy wedding and some of them stopped for a little while to watch another lavish wedding ceremony, where they didn’t know anybody, but it happened to be on their way back home.

When you look at Lacul Morii from a certain distance, you may get the impression of a Bruegel painting. A white surface and small human silhouettes engaged in some activities. You get closer and you see they are fishermen fishing on the frozen river; most of them by themselves, with no company, except for a bottle of vodka and a small chair.  There are also some men doing barbecue, a poet among them, reciting his satires. Wives are at home. The frozen lake is a man’s world.